Wednesday, July 18, 2018

On Potty Training


You guys.  Here I am to tell you a magical method of potty training.  You've probably combed over tons of Pinterest articles about how to easily train your toddler in 3 days.  Or you've read this book that pretty much everyone recommends. [As a side note, I hated that book.  I don't understand how it gets recommended by people who practice a similar parenting style to me! And everyone I know who used it has had to redo the process multiple times.]  You've debated rewards versus no rewards.  Stickers or M&Ms.  Pull ups or commando.  Baby potty or big toilet.  Stocked up on wine and toilet paper.

I did all of that.  Twice-ish?  Maybe three attempts?  But I'd rather deal with changing a diaper than poop all over the ground, and maybe my smart, intuitive girl could sense that.  Or maybe...

I just had to wait until she was ready.

That's my advice.  Wait. Wait until they want to do it themselves.  [Maybe Janet Lansbury was right about the parenting magic word!] . It occurred to me one day that just like I believe in child led weaning from the boob... why would I try to cajole her into something she clearly wasn't feeling?  She had all the classic signs of "readiness" but it had become a control issue/ battle and asserting my dominance over a toddler just isn't something I'm into.

All of a sudden she just decided she wanted to do it, and now she does it.  No probing, begging, or maintenance needed. She still wears a diaper at nap and bedtime at my behest, but other then that, she goes in the toilet.  This potty watch was a big game changer in inviting her to take initiative in the process itself, but other than that I have no recommendations besides WAIT.

1 comment:

  1. THANK YOU FOR THIS!

    Everyone is up in arms about my 2.75 (ha) not being potty trained, but she is NOT having it. oh well. hopefully she will feel like it soonish...

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